Self Esteem

Hey everyone!! Today we are continuing on your topic of confidence and talking about self esteem. These two topics plan hand in hand. We discussed how self confidence is and that you are able to be yourself. That no matter what if you are able to feel amazing about yourself, then your confidence is what is going to bring it to the best. Which brings us to our topic self esteem and how it can play into effect with your confidence.

Self esteem is something that you normally do not think about when you are looking at yourself and your self confidence. You have so much self worth and so much things to be proud of yourself for. If you are able to look at yourself and realize that you are a respectable person than you know your self esteem is at its highest. Self esteem is basically confidence in one's worth and abilities; self respect. When you know your worth and provide yourself with the self love and care then you are able to show off your confidence and know that you have true self esteem. Some people let the negative things that people have said to you or the things that they have done to control the very aspect of self esteem in your life. If there is a negative impact on yourself respect or how you view yourself then you have a lower self esteem and which can cause many things to affect your life. So please listen to yourself and your heart about what you love, who you are, and stand up tall to show that you have both the confidence and self esteem to prove it.

So if you look at the post from last night and you are looking at what you are now, you have both the confidence and the self esteem to be the best of who you are. Do not let your self esteem or respect be lowered because someone has chosen to be jealous of you. You are who you are so own it.

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Things You Don't See

Hey everyone!! Today I am going to be touching on a sensitive topic, so please do not judge anything that is written. I am writing based off experiences in my own life, things that my friends of touched based on for me, and just things that I have seen and experience as well.

Today we are going to be touching on the things that you do not see in peoples life. There are so many things that can affect your body image. It can come from bullying, people telling you that you are anorexic when you may not have control over how your body. I know that I have faced that, I was always extremely tiny in my life. I started high school at my lowest weight was 105 lbs, it is hard to image it and that picture is still stuck in my brain. It has torn my body image to shreds, because of how I felt. I know that people have seen themselves as over weight or obese, even when they are not. People have told them that they are ugly, they are fat, that they look like they are pregnant, even when they are not any of those things. Teenagers, middle schoolers, even elementary schoolers are subjugated to those torments by kids who are jealous and are cruel to them. They hear these things and see they way people are and they think that this is the right thing. They also deal with the fact that people are bullying them or making them feel worse. This is something that needs to change, people say that bullying is okay. I can understand that it makes people stronger, but the thing is that bullying people about things that they do not control is just wrong. I have had my coworkers tell me that didn't being bullying give you a thick skin and make you stronger, yes yes it did. But what they did not know, is that it changed who I was and made me do things that I now regret in my life because I thought that those were the right things to do. Do not let the bully control your life, and do not let it damage what you see yourself as. You and your body is beautiful and that is all that matters to you, whether you are skinny, thick, curvy, or have a body that is unique it is all on you.

Now we have touched the bullying, but what people do not know is that some girls and even males have dealt with these things. They have learned that restricting your diet or overeating is the best way to deal with how you feel about yourself. I have learned that it is not a good thing to restrict or over eat when it regards to your food because it affects your body image and how you see yourself. You truly are changing your body based on something that is not the right way to do it. For years I have either restricted my diet to where I would not eat but for one big meal a day or even snacking through out the day and just eating the one meal; and then there are some days that I would over eat and just eat and eat and eat because it felt good. I was trying to fill that void that my I did not feel that my body was able to create or I was trying to make myself so tiny that I could fit into the clothes that I used to all the time. These things have caused me to constantly fluctuate in weight, to the point where even if I would do the diet that restricted me or substitute things, I would eventually gain all the weight back and I learned to just love my body till I had gained weight and hit 205 lbs. I was so ashamed of myself that I would just wear sweat pants constantly and not feel good in anything that I wore, I destroyed my body image because I hd destroyed how I felt about myself. This was something that I did not start, but I definitely finished it.

When you are also looking at restricting and you are also looking at over eating, you would never think about the fact that people would develop eating disorders. There are many eating disorders out there, but the main ones that people know are bulimia nervosa, anorexia nervosa, malnutrition, purging, binging, being addicted to food, and so many more. You may never know by looking at the person, but deep down inside there are things that. There are so many warning signs, because you are looking at people and you notice that there are things that are different towards that person. There are also times that you may not notice till they are ready to show you. So please take the time to make sure that your friends and family is okay.

Now I know that we covered a lot hear today, but please understand that there is so many things that you can truly see and notice about yourself and other people. Love yourself and your body and know that there are things that you may not be able to talk about to your peers, but to yourself. So if you ever need someone to talk to you can reach out to your family and to your friends, but most importantly please reach out for help to anyone if you are in dire need or it is an emergency there are many ways to get help.

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Rewrite Negative Words

Hey everyone!! I know that I took the week off last week, and had a hard time getting my posts together. It was a very emotional week and I did not expect what was happening to happen, plus I celebrated my birthday!! I do hope that you continue to read and forgive me for my absence. But alas I am back!

Today's topic is going to be rewriting negative words. Everyone has either said to someone or even to themselves negative words. Some people have even built up a whole script in there heads about negative things. Well its time to change that, and why not start that today? I know that I personally on a day to day bases have things that I say negatively about myself, and there are some days were it is worse then other days. I have come to learn that this is called negative self talk, I am in a program that is teaching me how to love myself and change behaviors that I have created to cope and keep in the same pattern that I am in. Now I am not going to lie doing this is not going to be easy, it is honestly the farthest thing from easy, but it will be so worth it in the end.

So lets get started on changing those words. So instead of thinking negative words lets rewrite them to five positive things that you like yourself, one of my coworkers and best friends, Leigh Anne, told me this. She even had me practicing this when we worked together as soon as I said something negative about myself in front of her, she prompted me to say five positive things about myself and she would do it along with me sometimes. I have in my program had to write characteristics I liked about myself, and I am not going to lie that this was the hardest thing to do. I have struggled with my body image for as long as I can remember, I was either way to tiny or I was to fat, there was never a happy medium with myself. I still see myself to have to be a specific way regardless of what I am told or not. I know that it is not healthy and that everyone is entitled to be there own version of themselves. I know that it will be a struggle but if I can do it you can do it. I have seen my mom struggle with diets after diets and just feeling very negative of herself. I look at how she does things and I change it to be a positive influence of what not to do.

So if you have seen things or heard things that are negative not only about yourself or other people, then you have already started to rewrite negative words into positive words. You are choosing to take the negativity out of your mind, your thoughts, and your body. I know that it is not a simple task, but even if you do it just once a day or even one time a week, you are making steps to changing your life.

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